How to Get More Time to Figure Out What You Want to Do

The other day, for about the one hundred millionth time, my friend said to me: 

I have no idea what I want to do with my life. Plus, I’m getting so old! I’m in my 20’s now!
— Every university student ever

Since one hundred million is a lot of times... 

Now seems like a good time to fix this. 

In my recent book, Choose Happiness, I show you how changing your mindset can produce happiness in literally every situation in life. 

And that's exactly what we're going to here; change your mindset. 

So let's get you a little more time to help you figure out how you're going to spend your time. 

Because your time is worth it. Don't you think? 


STEP 1: SHIFT YOUR MINDSET FROM SCARCITY TO ABUNDANCE.


While you may find it easy to feel that all the good jobs are taken by people who are smarter than you... 

They're not. 

While we're young, we know nothing. But, in university, we get convinced we know a lot. 

If you're aiming to become really great at something other people value, it's going to take you decades. 

So all those kids who look like they "have it all figured out" are actually further away from "having it all figured out" than you are. 

At least you're able to be honest with yourself. 

At least you're able to see that there is an abundance of opportunity for you in this world. 

At least you're able to resist thinking scarce and going for the first job you can get your hands on. 

Because your life (time) is more valuable than that. 


STEP 2: EMBRACE THE ABUNDANCE OF TIME YOU HAVE. 


In university, we're trained to feel like we're in a rush. 

If you're not careful, you may find yourself feeling old at 21. 

What an absurd thing. Old at 21. 

With all of this newfound time, let yourself go. 

Let your interests take over. Play. 

To open yourself up to Figuring out what you really want, you need to let go.

Here are three ideas from one of my favourite videos ever (it's one minute long).


1) THE WORLD IS MUCH MORE BEAUTIFUL THAN WHAT HAS BEEN OFFERED TO US (YOUNG PEOPLE) AS NORMAL. 

2) YOU HAVE A MAGNIFICENT GIFT, AND THE PURPOSE OF YOUR LIFE IS TO GIVE IT. 

3) SOMETHING TREMENDOUS IS GOING TO HAPPEN TO YOU. 


STEP 3: GUESS. TRY STUFF OUT. FOLLOW YOUR CURIOSITY. 


If you're after a fulfilling career path, you're probably not going to get it on the first try. 

Or the second. 

But... eventually... you will get there. 

It all starts with a guess

Here are few questions to help you guess how you want to spend your time: 

  • Who do you like helping the most? 
  • What pain do you love struggling through? 
  • How would you spend your time if you retired right now? 
If you’re in your head, you’re dead.
— Tony Robbins

As scary as it is, you're going to have to try stuff. 

And you're probably going to have to fail. Which is not a bad thing. 

In school, we're used to thinking about stuff, not trying stuff, so actually doing new things might be something you're not used to. 

But, embrace this, and try new things anyways. 

Then, when you've tried new things, do more of the stuff you like. 

If you follow your curiosity, you'll be getting better, which makes you more useful to others. 


If you haven't made many decisions for yourself growing up, and you're used to going with the crowd, following your intuition might be a new thing for you. Give yourself time to get used to it, and trust that you're able to guide yourself to what you like. 


 

See? Now, you have time. 

 

We grow up fast. You're used to things happening quickly. 

But adulthood doesn't work that way. Things take time...

...a lot of time.

So give yourself the time you deserve.

STARTING NOW. 

ENJOY THE RIDE.

After all, time passes in only one direction. There's no going back. 

ONLY FORWARD.

Most people overestimate what they can do in a year and they underestimate what they can do in two or three decades.
— Tony Robbins